All of this talk I've recently been privy to having to do with high school graduation and future college students contemplating who they will be living with next year, has got me to thinking about my own college roommates.
With the level of technology now available, prospective students can get to know their future roomies online and even meet ahead of time to chat and perhaps determine compatibility. When I went to college, we still had to get extra long telephone cords to talk on our room phones and actually go to a library to do research. We had precious little ability to coordinate our roommates.
I happily filled out the forms and moved into room 124 Phillips Hall on the campus of Michigan State University in the fall of 1979. I didn't know it at the time but Phillips Hall was considered the Jewish dorm as well as the vegetarian dorm. It is one of the oldest dorms on campus featuring large bay windows one could sit in and contemplate life. I would live in that same room for all four of my years. My roommates, however, were more like a revolving door.
The first girl assigned to live with me seemed full of promise for about five minutes. Her name was Leslie and as soon as she discovered that the first floor of Phillips Hall was a designated quiet floor with a strict curfew and noise limitations, she put in for a transfer immediately. Studying was apparently not on her agenda. I do not think I ever saw her again.
Next came Kathy, a theatre major who was interested in children's productions. Her love for children's theatre perhaps had something to do with the very large emu puppet she would carry around on her arm, interacting suddenly with any unsuspecting resident of that dorm. A large beak attached to its long fleece neck did not have the same effect on college students it may have had on young children. Her physical limitations, in part responsible for her hygiene choices, meant that instead of washing her hair, she would often brush her hair using a powdery substance to make it look less like she had not washed it. We each had issues that were not made better by living together. When I would be in that stage between waking and sleeping and I could sense her watching me, I would open my eyes slowly to often find her staring intently at me, a few inches from my face. I may have preferred the emu by this point. I was relieved when she found a roommate who had more time for her.
Helen was the roommate who came from Detroit and would talk to her mother on the phone in Ukranian. As a big city girl she could handle almost anything except going home to the country with me and trying to survive with no convenience stores, no delivery pizza, no take-out Chinese, or streetlights. Out of all of my roommates, I got into the most amount of trouble with her. Suffice it to say that when your roommate leaves you at a fraternity house with a guy who is supposed to walk you home; or calls a taxi for you and a guy she barely knows from class to take you back to the dorm from the bar, it is not necessarily a good thing. Detroit girls may have the street smarts to handle themselves; naive girls fresh off the farm do not. Our roommate days were over when I went back to the room earlier than expected one night and walked in on Helen and her boyfriend getting to "know" one another. In the biblical sense.
Next in the roommate line-up was a girl named Trish who majored in elementary education and seemed to spend a lot of time in the room cutting out laminated pictures for her student teaching. She would be tucking herself into bed when I would be getting off work and begin my studying. Sleeping was optional for me and if I got to hit the bed four hours a night I was fortunate. I loved taking naps in the afternoon, but with a roommate showing up and wanting to listen to music or having friends over, this did not happen often. We shared some of the same friends which included guy friends. It was only a matter of time before her favorite guy friend from the brother floor downstairs would decide to date me instead of her. This was all my fault, she claimed. I would lose another roommate, shortly thereafter another boyfriend, and at last would live by myself . . . for awhile.
One of the two summer terms that I went to school, I moved off-campus to live in an apartment we affectionately referred to as Dive Number Three. It was furnished with broken furniture and a tiny kitchen. My roommate, Anne, made it clear from day one that I was living with HER and not the other way around. I knew she was high strung from living next door to her in our dorm for years and being forced to listen to Joan Armatrading's "Love & Affection" played on a continuous loop. By about the fifth time of hearing, "I could really dance, really dance, really dance, really dance," I would have to go hide myself in the stacks of the library, my second home, and let go of the idea of ever sleeping again. As long as I understood my place and her rules, life was pleasant.
I would finally end up living with a sweet girl named Nita who would take the saddle she sometimes had with her when she would ride her horse she had boarded nearby, place it on the bed headboard and "ride" it while listening to the William Tell Overture. Because it was my fourth year in that room she wanted me to understand it was no more my room than hers, though I did not share that opinion. When I was out one day she decided to invite some friends over to rearrange the furniture. At an opportune time I moved it all back the way I had it to begin with. Amazing how the adrenaline of anger can empower one to move furniture previously thought impossible to budge. We did become unlikely friends by the time of my graduation and I was able to experience a proper roommate send-off.
Determined to never have another college roommate again, I ended up with one my first year of graduate school at Marshall University where I sought out dorm life for the sake of convenience. I could forgive my roommate, Kim, for thinking Michigan was "a city Up North," but had to draw the line at smoking. I had signed up for a nonsmoking roommate, I pointed out. She couldn't admit that she was a smoker on the application while her mother was standing right there, could she. Most of the time she smoked at the biker bar where wild nursing students liked to party. After she admitted that her "boyfriend" was actually a girl and I had the awkward experience of walking in on them, she was convinced I would move out, but I never did. She said she felt that I was judging her even though she judged me for the guy I was dating at the time. I told her the only difference between she and I was that I knew where I was going when I died. She said she would make it right with God before the end of her life. I told her that the way she was living, the end could be that day. She eventually found peace.
In all fairness, I walk, talk, sometimes scream, and have attempted to carry out other activities in my sleep, making rooming with me an adventure. I came and went at all hours of the day and night and had no time to do trivial tasks like dusting, my friends would remind me as they wrote me notes in the dust on my desk. Living together requires a give-and-take attitude, communication of expectations, and a lot of forbearance. It is not for the faint of heart.
I would spend my final year of higher education in a designated one-person room in a co-ed dorm. ALL . . . BY . . . MYSELF.
With the level of technology now available, prospective students can get to know their future roomies online and even meet ahead of time to chat and perhaps determine compatibility. When I went to college, we still had to get extra long telephone cords to talk on our room phones and actually go to a library to do research. We had precious little ability to coordinate our roommates.
I happily filled out the forms and moved into room 124 Phillips Hall on the campus of Michigan State University in the fall of 1979. I didn't know it at the time but Phillips Hall was considered the Jewish dorm as well as the vegetarian dorm. It is one of the oldest dorms on campus featuring large bay windows one could sit in and contemplate life. I would live in that same room for all four of my years. My roommates, however, were more like a revolving door.
The first girl assigned to live with me seemed full of promise for about five minutes. Her name was Leslie and as soon as she discovered that the first floor of Phillips Hall was a designated quiet floor with a strict curfew and noise limitations, she put in for a transfer immediately. Studying was apparently not on her agenda. I do not think I ever saw her again.
Next came Kathy, a theatre major who was interested in children's productions. Her love for children's theatre perhaps had something to do with the very large emu puppet she would carry around on her arm, interacting suddenly with any unsuspecting resident of that dorm. A large beak attached to its long fleece neck did not have the same effect on college students it may have had on young children. Her physical limitations, in part responsible for her hygiene choices, meant that instead of washing her hair, she would often brush her hair using a powdery substance to make it look less like she had not washed it. We each had issues that were not made better by living together. When I would be in that stage between waking and sleeping and I could sense her watching me, I would open my eyes slowly to often find her staring intently at me, a few inches from my face. I may have preferred the emu by this point. I was relieved when she found a roommate who had more time for her.
Helen was the roommate who came from Detroit and would talk to her mother on the phone in Ukranian. As a big city girl she could handle almost anything except going home to the country with me and trying to survive with no convenience stores, no delivery pizza, no take-out Chinese, or streetlights. Out of all of my roommates, I got into the most amount of trouble with her. Suffice it to say that when your roommate leaves you at a fraternity house with a guy who is supposed to walk you home; or calls a taxi for you and a guy she barely knows from class to take you back to the dorm from the bar, it is not necessarily a good thing. Detroit girls may have the street smarts to handle themselves; naive girls fresh off the farm do not. Our roommate days were over when I went back to the room earlier than expected one night and walked in on Helen and her boyfriend getting to "know" one another. In the biblical sense.
Next in the roommate line-up was a girl named Trish who majored in elementary education and seemed to spend a lot of time in the room cutting out laminated pictures for her student teaching. She would be tucking herself into bed when I would be getting off work and begin my studying. Sleeping was optional for me and if I got to hit the bed four hours a night I was fortunate. I loved taking naps in the afternoon, but with a roommate showing up and wanting to listen to music or having friends over, this did not happen often. We shared some of the same friends which included guy friends. It was only a matter of time before her favorite guy friend from the brother floor downstairs would decide to date me instead of her. This was all my fault, she claimed. I would lose another roommate, shortly thereafter another boyfriend, and at last would live by myself . . . for awhile.
One of the two summer terms that I went to school, I moved off-campus to live in an apartment we affectionately referred to as Dive Number Three. It was furnished with broken furniture and a tiny kitchen. My roommate, Anne, made it clear from day one that I was living with HER and not the other way around. I knew she was high strung from living next door to her in our dorm for years and being forced to listen to Joan Armatrading's "Love & Affection" played on a continuous loop. By about the fifth time of hearing, "I could really dance, really dance, really dance, really dance," I would have to go hide myself in the stacks of the library, my second home, and let go of the idea of ever sleeping again. As long as I understood my place and her rules, life was pleasant.
I would finally end up living with a sweet girl named Nita who would take the saddle she sometimes had with her when she would ride her horse she had boarded nearby, place it on the bed headboard and "ride" it while listening to the William Tell Overture. Because it was my fourth year in that room she wanted me to understand it was no more my room than hers, though I did not share that opinion. When I was out one day she decided to invite some friends over to rearrange the furniture. At an opportune time I moved it all back the way I had it to begin with. Amazing how the adrenaline of anger can empower one to move furniture previously thought impossible to budge. We did become unlikely friends by the time of my graduation and I was able to experience a proper roommate send-off.
Determined to never have another college roommate again, I ended up with one my first year of graduate school at Marshall University where I sought out dorm life for the sake of convenience. I could forgive my roommate, Kim, for thinking Michigan was "a city Up North," but had to draw the line at smoking. I had signed up for a nonsmoking roommate, I pointed out. She couldn't admit that she was a smoker on the application while her mother was standing right there, could she. Most of the time she smoked at the biker bar where wild nursing students liked to party. After she admitted that her "boyfriend" was actually a girl and I had the awkward experience of walking in on them, she was convinced I would move out, but I never did. She said she felt that I was judging her even though she judged me for the guy I was dating at the time. I told her the only difference between she and I was that I knew where I was going when I died. She said she would make it right with God before the end of her life. I told her that the way she was living, the end could be that day. She eventually found peace.
In all fairness, I walk, talk, sometimes scream, and have attempted to carry out other activities in my sleep, making rooming with me an adventure. I came and went at all hours of the day and night and had no time to do trivial tasks like dusting, my friends would remind me as they wrote me notes in the dust on my desk. Living together requires a give-and-take attitude, communication of expectations, and a lot of forbearance. It is not for the faint of heart.
I would spend my final year of higher education in a designated one-person room in a co-ed dorm. ALL . . . BY . . . MYSELF.
A girl on my hall arrived to meet her new roommate, who had brought along her 6-month-old baby to live in the room with them. She was going to bring her three-year-old the next week. The roommate intended to leave the children locked in the room while she was at class. The same roommate also entertained a bewildering variety of male "townie" lovers in the room, all of them named "John." Some of the johns asked to spend time with the rest of us. We had to hold a special meeting to ask her not to act like that. Eventually we had to call in both campus and town police. Such a special time!
ReplyDeleteTruly one of the best roommate stories I have heard! She deserves to be in the "roommate hall of fame!"
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